The Rules.

19 Sep

I am interested to know if the rules of all ‘the games’ are different here in France.

The rules involving relationships, and more specifically, when one considers themselves in a relationship are certainly not what they are at home. (And let it be said that if you kiss a Frenchman on a date, congratulations! You are the proud owner of a shiny new relationship.)

Example. I had no idea that i was in a relationship earlier this year with no name, until a couple of months later he suggested we end it and just be friends. It bewildered me because i thought we were kinda just friends anyway, only i was also ‘kinda’ friends with a few others at that time too. Whoops.

So i’ve learned the rules the hard way (not that it was painful, i just went the long way round) and now i’ve graduated to a more complicated part of the game that i am yet to get a grasp of how to play.

Case in point: I met a friend of Mr No Name’s recently. If you are not familiar with who Mr No Name is, he is the gentleman i have to referred to in the example above. Yes, the Gentleman who does not want to have a relationship with me, but continues to be one of my closest friends here in Paris. A good man he is at that. So, when one meets and becomes enamoured by a friend of the ‘ex’, what happens then??


In Australia, there is a very clearly defined ‘bro’s before hoe’s’ policy.  I’m pretty sure it’s in the constitution. A man would never consider making a move or accepting an advance from the ex of one of his friends. It just wouldn’t be right.

Is it the same here in France?

I’ve the feeling i’ve been outplayed and possibly checkmated.

What is my next move?


3 Responses to “The Rules.”

  1. M September 20, 2010 at 10:50 am #

    apparently the Rules differ from person to person. there is no one definable rule other than all men are the same. sorry, this is me being annoyed at the world 🙂

  2. Poulette September 20, 2010 at 4:21 pm #

    Ah M, so bitter! But you are right i think. It’s possible men are all completely different, yet exactly the same.

    Though, i was chatting to a friend this afternoon who suggested that in fact the rules could very well be different here. Due to the fact that here in Paris people tend to stick to their same circles, it can get a little bit incestuous sometimes…..

    There’s hope for little Poulette yet!

  3. Nicole September 21, 2010 at 9:28 am #

    Oh, we are speaking about French people- you can definitely date an ex’s friends. Just look at Carla and every other tabloid headline from this summer. She invited three of her ex’s to her Italian villa, in spend vacation with her and her current husband. (And the insider’s gossip that I’ve heard is that she had already done the rounds of Sarkozy’s friends before they ever hooked up…)
    When I first went to a ‘family’ party with my French boyfriend, I was constantly asking for English translations because I was sure I had misunderstood every time someone explained their connection. In fact, I had understood perfectly, but I had never seen so many amicably divorced people in one room, most of whom were with their new partner. Too weird.

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